group dynamics

When you spend a considerable amount of time with a large group of people, bonds will form.

We are human, and this is natural.

It is so natural in fact, that bonds will form with many different people in many different ways and there is guaranteed to be some overlapping between the persons. Cliques and soul-mates, partners and trios, friends and romances... all are possible.

It would seem highly naive in such a setting to believe that the deep and secure bond that you form with someone, cannot be also formed between that someone and someone else. It is usually our emotions that get the best of us when we find ourselves in these situations. Logic would dictate that such a scenario is unavoidable and should be expected, while emotion feeds us the destructive lie that it is unique and special to us alone.

In order to survive the reality that group dynamics throws in our faces, we must first learn to manage the false expectations that our emotions create.