fight and drown or relax and float

Silence between two solid friends is comfortable.
Silence between two on shaky ground is not.
Yet
Discussions about the friendship between two solid friends make it stronger.
Discussions about the friendship between two friends on shaky ground can either make the whole thing better, or if dragged on, can perpetuate the problem.

Problems are bound to arise between people, but the longer a pair of friends take to get over the problem, and the more the problem becomes the focus of their entire friendship, is the more the problem will grow and the actual friendship may be stifled behind all the drama.

It is as if the more one fights for something is the faster the thing will run away and the more exhausted ones feel, and the more one lets it take its course is the better off it will be.